What Is Love?
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Listen for LOVE
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There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel.
For fear of embarrassing the other person, or yourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words "I love you."
So we try to communicate the idea in other words. We say 'take care' or 'don't drive too fast' or 'be good'.
But really, these are just other ways of saying 'I love you,' 'you are important to me,' 'I care what happens to you,' 'I don't want you to get hurt'.
We are sometimes very strange people.
The only thing we want to say, and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don't say.
And yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean.
And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.
Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people are saying to us.
Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important.
A joyous insult carries more affection and love within the sentiments which are expressed insincerely.
An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words might be saying very different.
Any expression of a person's concern for another says I love you.
Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel.
Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that contains.
But it is often there, beneath the surface.
A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room.
The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he will hear the love underneath the nagging.
His mother wants him to do well, to be successful.
Her concern and love for her son unfortunately emerge in her nagging.
But it is love all the same.
A daughter comes home late, way past her curfew, and her father confronts her with angry words.
The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she listens carefully, she will hear the love under the anger.
"I was worried about you," the father is saying.'Because I care about you and I love you. You are important to me.'
We say I love you in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears.
Sometimes we show our love by just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even brusquely.
We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness.
Many times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express.
The problem is listening for love is that we don't always understand the language of love which the other person is using.
A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language.
Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love.
The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other.
They hear the words, but they don't listen to the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face.
Or people listen only for rejection or misunderstanding.
They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry.
We have to listen for love in those around us.
If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realize.
Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place after all.
LOVE is a happy thing.
It makes us laugh.
It makes us sing.
It makes us sad.
It makes us cry.
It makes us seek the reason why.
It makes us take.
It makes us give.
Above all else it makes us LIVE.
It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone.
Sometimes it is good to be alone.
But that does not make us lonely.
It is not a matter of being present WITH someone.
It is a matter of being present to someone.
So remember...If you love someone, tell them.
Remember always to say what you mean.
Never be afraid to express yourself.
Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you.
Seize the day and have no regrets.
Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about anyway.
The difference between expressing love and having regrets is that the regrets may stay around.
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U never lose by Loving,
U only lose by Holding Back...
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does love confuses one's mind?
do this wrong, do that also not right...
den do wat den is correct?
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Well jany, Love has not right or wrong, it's how you look at it only
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Love is Love - Culture Club
Refrain 1:
You don't have to touch it to know
Love is everywhere you go
You don't have to touch it to feel
Love is every second we steal
Chorus:
Love is love is nothing without you
Love is love is everything you do
Open up your eyes
And you will see
Love is love is everything to me
You don't have to touch it to be
Wrapped up in emotion like me
Everyone must feel how I do, yeah
Love is just to be close to you
(chorus)
And you know that love is love
It's written in black and blue
And everything you say
Must bring her closer, closer to you
Ba-ba, ba-ba, ba-ba
(refrain 1)
(chorus)
Love is love is nothing without you
Love is love is everything you do -
hmm i realise hor seem like it is for both of them to communicate their love here
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and horr me actually so silly to stay up late and reply to the forum postings .... arghhh I look haggard ahhhhh!!!! *faint*
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Well, you are online during daytime, you can read it then. Beside there is another reason why you are up so lateOriginally posted by Joylet:and horr me actually so silly to stay up late and reply to the forum postings .... arghhh I look haggard ahhhhh!!!! *faint* -
hmmmmm
wat is love?
I start missing u once u r not by my side, is this Love?
I start thinking of you whenever i close my eyes, is this love?
I cant bear the tot of not seeing u even for one day, is this love?
I long to hold your hand again after u let mine go, is this love?
haiz...
Wen Shi Jian Qing Wei He Wu
Zhi Jiao Ren Sheng Shi Xiang Xu....
You Yuan Qian Li Lai Xiang Hui
Wu Yuan Dui Mian Bu Xiang Shi.... -
Clone: how come u say i stay up late for another reason? what is the reason
jAnY: I used to have such "feelings" ... I was confused ... whether was it "love" or ???
Frankly, I feel it is [color=red]obssession. Kinda scary ... dun u think so??? afraid that u might lose someone .. every minute ... everyday ... will go gila faster ...[/color] -
Joy cos ur boi is working nite shift and you are waiting for him to come back.
Love don't make one mad for thinking about it, it just makes you crazy for more of it. -
i agree with joy some time u just cant help thinking of being with him everyday after work or sch.
u just wanna spend all your time with him....and then soon it will be possession liao....kakakak
but love is just no words to explain -
Excessive compulsive.
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Love is....
Sour : Jealousy - This is how you feel when you see him/her behaving intimately with someone else
Sweet: Happiness - This is how you feel when he/she is by your side (The sweet and happy memories)
Bitter: Sadness, Anger - This is how you will feel when you quarrel...
HOT : Passionate - How you feel when you are really deeply in love with him/her
Loving Someone is giving that Someone the power to hurt you.
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You dont understand my Silence
You wont undertsand my words -
Loving Someone is giving that Someone the power to hurt you.
It is too extreme to say the above.
If your love is given freely without expectations, how can it hurt you?
It is the expectations that hurts, because you set this expectations yourself, the one who is doing the hurting is thus yourself.
But what is life without expectations? -
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A Piece of Paper
Love is like 2 people filling up a piece of paper...
A relationship starts off as a clear piece of paper.
A guy and a gal agrees to write on that piece of paper.
When it starts, both r excited as it's their first time working together.
They fill up the paper with the best of things they can think of.
Sometimes the guy writes more, sometimes the gal writes more.
Some people writes without thinking much, some writes after some thought.
As the writing carries on, it gets more and more tiring.
The couple have to be motivated to keep on writing.
This is the commitment and responsibility of a relationship.
As long as the urge to write continues, the writing will never end.
It will carry on paper after paper until one pen's ink run out.
This is eternal love till death do us apart...
Some couples prefer to write together, some write their own and combine the efforts.
Neither side should be the only one writing, else ink may get blocked for the party who writes non-stop.
Too tired...
The character of a person is like the handwriting on the paper...
Everyone has his/her handwriting.
It is very difficult to change one's handwriting.
Not impossible but it takes a lot of time and hard work.
The outcome may not be desirable.
It is also difficult to imitate the handwritings of another person.
The most one can do is to be tidier or more untidy in their handwritings.
Sometimes, to make the writing on the paper look more presentable, it could be necessary for either side to slightly alter the style of his/her handwritings...
A mistake in love is like a smudge on the paper...
Whether purposely or accidentally a smudge is a smudge.
No matter how well the writing has gone.
So far or how lovely is the content, a smudge will leave a mark no matter how well u cover it ( with eraser, liquid paper, etc.).
Whether to keep on writing will depend on the perception of the couple.
Whether they mind the content more or the outlook of the piece of work more.
Worst case is when the paper is torn.
It'll leave a very ugly mark.
Well, the decision lies with the couple...
To break-off is to stop writing...
Many reasons can lead to this ending.
One party could be the one writing non-stop and really too tired to carry on anymore.
One party or both could be unsatisfied with the content or really dislike what each other is writing (it takes time to know the writing style of someone, it could be halfway through the paper before it is known).
Or a smudge exists and either one or both mind (depend on their level of perfectionism). Or it could be what they r writing r contradicting each other.
It can also be the case where one party finds another partner to write with...
Other analogies...
Pen users r serious lovers.
Those who use pencils like to test things out first.
Some even write drafts with other people (many-timers).
After a breakup, a photocopy of the writings so far is made and this is given to a party while the other keeps the original (for memories).
Or it could be either or neither will keep the writings.
It could also be the original work lies there waiting for the original
writers to be back.
A well-done masterpiece could be bound into a book and kept forever.
Likewise n some cases, it may be pieces of paper lying around.
Different people writes different things and have different outcomes.
In the case of people going through many relationships, it's just like
changing partners to work with.
Some may write things according to past experiences or have new ideas.
While writing, the couple may exchange their pens.
In a new relationship, one party might mind that his/her partner's pen has been used by other people before.
Personally I believe this also applies to friendship right?
It also requires both parties to play their part to keep the friendship
forever lasting.
You only live once.
What do you really want to do and achieve in life?
Let's think, learn & share.
It is a meaningful journey.