What's different now?
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Well, I just lost another boyfriend, which makes umm...4 in 5 months, and if your still don't know why, it's because they can't accept me as I'm transsexual.
/rant
So what's different now? I mean I'm still the very same girl which they fell in love from the start. In their eyes I was an angel, the perfect girlfriend, fun; pretty; cute; sweet; basically, everything they were looking for in me. But when I tell them the truth, everything just changes completely.
He promised me it wouldn't end up the same way like it did with my previous boyfriend, but that's pretty much how it turned out. Initially they are left a little shocked, but still okay, and they think that it's still possible for things to work out. But then a few hours later the full impact strikes them, and they realize what's going on, then they tell you "Sorry, but I don't think I can continue this relationship. However we can still be friends."
Friends? Yea right. Things never remain the same after that. They just seem to distance themselves further and further away from me. They ignore my phone calls, ignore my messages. Even when I manage to get them to respond to me, most of the time their replies are as dead as...dead, or they try to find a way to get away from you.
A chat with me and my second-last ex after 1 month of not talking.
Me: Hello.
Him: Hi umm, I'm busy now, I'll call you back later.
Me: Okay...
(he never called back)
A chat with my last ex after 2 weeks of not talking.
Me: Hello, are you free now?
Him: Huh? Err, actually I was just going to watch something.
Me: Oh...
Him: Err, if you still want to talk, I can while I watch my show.
Him: Actually, nevermind, I'll just watch my stuff, and have my lunch, then I got some things to do.
Him: Bye bye then.
Me: Bye...
Have your read today's article on how people with AIDS are discriminated against, and choose to keep it from people around them, except those whom matter? Well, it's similar to what I experience, not in terms of people don't want to share things with me, but more on how people distance themselves from you, how you lose friends, how you become an outcast.
Is it that hard to accept a transsexual woman? I mean, hey, I'm still the same person you fell in love with. Am I fated to be alone for the rest of my life?
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Maybe you shouldnt tell them who you really are?
Or tell them in the beginning.... to avoid future complications. -
i still think honesty is best..
one day jen, one day you will find someone
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I agree with the Bear
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Yah jenn ,wish u all e best
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unfortunately most pple cannot accept it, but there are pple who will accept it and i guess you just have to carry on bravely and find the right one.
tellling hem would be good at near the begining of relationship i guess, honesty best policy etc and less attachment for hurt -
Wasn't there this Malaysian transsexual who actually managed to get hitched a few months ago? I think there's still hope. There must be some guy out there who's willing to accept you for who you are.
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Sorry for taking so long to reply; I've been really busy this last week at my church, and will probably be busy next week too as I've been practicing daily for dances, performances, as well as helping prepare things for my Thailand mission trip in 10 days. Will be leaving on the 20th, and back on the 28th, 3 days after Christmas. I'm a little sad to be away from home during Christmas, but heck, there'll be plently more in the future. =)
Anyway, thanks for the advice everyone, especially the Bear *hugs*. I usually tell pretty early, somewhere around the 5th date, depending on how long I procastinate. That way it's too far into the relationship for the guy to feel cheated or betrayed, and yet it's not too early for them to judge without giving me a chance.
By the way, the forum seems to have died shortly after I disapeared, and apparently so did Phoebie's other forum. Come on, let's contribute more. -
aww..
this past week, i've been working really late too..
hope your christmastime "tour" will be fruitful -
i think its quite hard to stomach oso la.. my honest opinion. but i also dun believe u're fated to die alone.
singapore ppl hor, alot still very conservative one. good or bad i dunnoe la, bt dats how it is. -
hello Jenn
nice to see you again
I've been busy mapling in maplesea against the time race for the super maple badana since last week keke
got to go to chiong in maple again
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pheebs plays maple?
i used to... but with the iMac, i couldn't anymore so i gave my stuff to shinta -
hello the BearOriginally posted by the Bear:pheebs plays maple?
i used to... but with the iMac, i couldn't anymore so i gave my stuff to shinta
yup been online whole night for more than 18 hours since yesterday
gonna give my laptop a rest or else it may blow
now chionging to level to 50 before 3rd of Jan 07 to get that super badana
http://www.maplesea.com/intro/events/game_events20061130.aspx -
Never really liked MapleStory that much. It's mainly the limited choice of how you can make your character look like, the blankness in their face, the same actions over and over again, and the fact that you can't kill other people which keeps me from playing it. I mean there's nothing to do in that game but level up.
Currently playing Spacecowboy Online (SCO) in my free time. Fun free MMOTPS. Seems alot less mindless to me, and you need skill to be able to fly and fight others too.
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nice and coolOriginally posted by JennTS:Never really liked MapleStory that much. It's mainly the limited choice of how you can make your character look like, the blankness in their face, the same actions over and over again, and the fact that you can't kill other people which keeps me from playing it. I mean there's nothing to do in that game but level up.
Currently playing Spacecowboy Online (SCO) in my free time. Fun free MMOTPS. Seems alot less mindless to me, and you need skill to be able to fly and fight others too.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=SqI7vZPhYSY