I'm so tired...
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sometimes in r/s, any r/s, its good to haf a period without each other - for self reflection, to do own things, for internal healing, to center urself...
i always can feel the need for this, esp after living / constant contact for extended periods of time with the same persons. i realise i start to come v irritable to him/her, and i noe i need to getaway for some time b4 anyone is hurt. -
Ya lah.but im not realli like wat she say leh.Jus a 1 sided story.Originally posted by :To tell you simply and put it striaghtforward, when a guy can't be bother with his gf.... he has lost interest in his gf.
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I do swt tok now.I do crack jokes n do things to make u happy.But its jus lesser loh.Last time i have more free time to spend wif u.now in NS.Of couse lesser jokes and swt toks.hai~~Originally posted by shan_cai:I like e way he treated mi when we started bein together...
He's so swt n carin bk den... How i miss e old him... -
forgive n forget...!~ happy happy everybody
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I have promosed ample times tat i will not do any betraying stuff.since u say trust me,hope u realli do.Originally posted by shan_cai:Im afraid he may haf e tendency 2 hide smthin fr mi... Given his character... But i truly trust him, tats y always scared he wil abuse my trust 4 him... -
agree.some things if she dun say,i wont noe mah.how 2 understand every single things rite.Originally posted by xking:Guys and gals R diff ma....
Gals expect their guys to know this know dat.
If U never tell him how U feel he wont noe one.
Its might not be he is not sensitive......
Jus that he duno how U feels also ma.....cant expect him to think wat U think rite?
Tok it over.... I find dat gals tend to feel dat the guy they love mus really understnd them 100% one...if not say they not sensitive. At most i think can reach is 70%.....coz he is a guy not gal...so he think like guy. Dats why they operates differently N think diff ma. -
mito ar.. I think you and shan_cai should really sit down and have a nice tok ba..~
And put in some effort to make her feel loved by you. -
erm dun say liddat leh.nan ren fan jian meh?dun 1 bamboo hit 1 ship ppl leh.Im not as wat is told lah.its jus 1 side sotry.makes me feel like all blame is on me.i nv have a chance 2 say anything.In fact most of the time i tried to gif in.sometimes its jus becos i didnt wan to get into qurrell so let the matter rest(not bo chup ok).i didnt wan to argue somemore mah.Originally posted by IamAngeline:Okie la my theory again
Nu Ren Tian Shen Ming Jian
Nan Ren Tian Shen Fan Jian
U hope he will take initiative. But the fact is I THINK lah.. he is too used to ur initiative instead, so becum-> he can't be bothered. Afterall, you will take initiative to sort everything out right?
Basically the above situation happens when U are the one who afraid that this r/s wun works which MAY implies you love him more then he loves you. Sorry girl, I may sound crude. But usually this is the fact.
But dun mind I ask, what are u suspecting him hiding from ya? -
Hubby, u do seem uninterested in watever i wanna say 2 u...Originally posted by mitolover:Ya lah.but im not realli like wat she say leh.Jus a 1 sided story. -
so r u relating to tat time i go home from camp(nites off) n keep u in the dark?i did explain tat i didnt wan to meet u cause i noe u v sticky 1.sure ask me meet u.if i say dun meet u,u ask the whole grandma story like y dun wan.the dun meet y must go home,might as well stay in camp.y u dunwant meet liao,u changed liao u dun like me liao.Originally posted by shan_cai:He's not hidin anythin fr mi at e moment. But im juz afraid, coz of e shadow he left last time. His reason was, he rather hide fr mi than 2 let mi noe as i'll get angry. But wont it b worse if i found out on my own n flare up?
But now i trust him coz he promised 2 b truthful 2 mi...
Anw i apologized 4 tat liao and its like many many months ago liao.dun bring up the thing liao lah...(or maybe ur referring to other things?) -
hmm okok... I dun mean to sound crude lah..Originally posted by mitolover:erm dun say liddat leh.nan ren fan jian meh?dun 1 bamboo hit 1 chip ppl leh.Im not as wat is told lah.its jus 1 side sotry.makes me feel like all blame is on me.i nv have a chance 2 say anything.In fact most of the time i tried to gif in.sometimes its jus becos i didnt wan to get into qurrell so let the matter rest(not bo chup ok).i didnt wan to argue somemore mah.
I also cannot say much abt what is between u n ur darling.
my only advise:
If there's a prob, dun avoid it. Face it.
Escaping from it will make it worse.
Most impt, both of you should have communication at the right frequency. alright? -
Itz not abt jokes n swt tok... Itz a way u treat mi... Totally different...Originally posted by mitolover:I do swt tok now.I do crack jokes n do things to make u happy.But its jus lesser loh.Last time i have more free time to spend wif u.now in NS.Of couse lesser jokes and swt toks.hai~~
Maybe u reali tink we're stable or wat, so u dun treat mi as gd as b4...
Or maybe tat time coz u wanna woo mi, or already juz started bein wif mi, so u treat mi better. Now no more... No more honeymoon period... We're together onli 4 1.5yrs leh... Not 15 yrs...
Hope u dun lose interest in dis r/s yet... We stil got a long way 2 go... -
Cannot compare me to others mah.me is me.maybe other bf can b so caring like to buy medi 4 the gf,pick gf up frm work everyday.smtimes not i dunwan to pick u up or wat.its jus im riding n due to my 24hrs work,its abit stressful 4 me to pick u up on the veri day afterwork.Originally posted by shan_cai:I reali envy u n ur bf... But rest assured i wont juz envy, i'll do things 2 achieve it too...
And sometimes i realli angry tat not i dunwan to get u medi when u sick.its jus u dun wan to take care of urself.i asked u to c doc u dunwan.then everytime nv eat,then at nite say gastic.ask u c doc u say nvm.then i oso duno wat to do liao.how 2 say im caring?n i must say this CARING IS NOT JUS SHOWING ONI LEH.IS BY REALLI DOIN IT.SHOW PPL U CARING GOT NO PT. -
I truly agree wif wat angie said,Originally posted by mitolover:erm dun say liddat leh.nan ren fan jian meh?dun 1 bamboo hit 1 chip ppl leh.Im not as wat is told lah.its jus 1 side sotry.makes me feel like all blame is on me.i nv have a chance 2 say anything.In fact most of the time i tried to gif in.sometimes its jus becos i didnt wan to get into qurrell so let the matter rest(not bo chup ok).i didnt wan to argue somemore mah.
"Nu ren tian sheng ming jian"... Itz an undenied fact... -
Coz u make mi feel tat u did smthin wrong n dun dare let mi noe... If not y muz hide fr mi... U dun like mi do dis type of things but u oso did tat anyway. So y preach if u dun practice?Originally posted by mitolover:so r u relating to tat time i go home from camp(nites off) n keep u in the dark?i did explain tat i didnt wan to meet u cause i noe u v sticky 1.sure ask me meet u.if i say dun meet u,u ask the whole grandma story like y dun wan.the dun meet y must go home,might as well stay in camp.y u dunwant meet liao,u changed liao u dun like me liao.
Anw i apologized 4 tat liao and its like many many months ago liao.dun bring up the thing liao lah...(or maybe ur referring to other things?)
Anyway itz over liao... Dunwanna tok abt tat. Juz relatin it onli... No use tinkin abt it... -
I think its true lah.not to the extend tat we restrict each other not to call or meet up lah.But me n my dear meets everysingle day.oni when im at work or shes at work.i need time do go wif frenz and do my own stuff or hobbies.Shes staying wif me at my place now and seldom goes home.now we got arguement of im using computer sufing net and nv accompany her.I think if we r at home 24hrs.how to accompany her the whole day with doing some other stuff.Originally posted by wuming78:sometimes in r/s, any r/s, its good to haf a period without each other - for self reflection, to do own things, for internal healing, to center urself...
i always can feel the need for this, esp after living / constant contact for extended periods of time with the same persons. i realise i start to come v irritable to him/her, and i noe i need to getaway for some time b4 anyone is hurt.
So i suggested some of the days dun meet as i need to slp.no point she come my place n i slp.Have to realli work out on this. -
No lah.its jus sometimes i feel tat shes expecting too much.like when i msg her,nv put 'Dear',she oso ask y i nv call her dear.Hai~~Originally posted by IamAngeline:mito ar.. I think you and shan_cai should really sit down and have a nice tok ba..~
And put in some effort to make her feel loved by you.
we got tok lah.dun worry. -
Dis one i understand. I nv expect u 2 pick mi up liao mah. Wat more u wan? Ur 1st offday always itz i go ur place myself liao ok? Since tat time we quarrel abt dis issue i already nv blame u when u wan mi go bk myself.Originally posted by mitolover:Cannot compare me to others mah.me is me.maybe other bf can b so caring like to buy medi 4 the gf,pick gf up frm work everyday.smtimes not i dunwan to pick u up or wat.its jus im riding n due to my 24hrs work,its abit stressful 4 me to pick u up on the veri day afterwork.
Im understandin. Not like b4 liao ok? -
U oso noe carin is by doin arh? Den y i nv c u do anythin? U show oso nv show loh...Originally posted by mitolover:And sometimes i realli angry tat not i dunwan to get u medi when u sick.its jus u dun wan to take care of urself.i asked u to c doc u dunwan.then everytime nv eat,then at nite say gastic.ask u c doc u say nvm.then i oso duno wat to do liao.how 2 say im caring?n i must say this CARING IS NOT JUS SHOWING ONI LEH.IS BY REALLI DOIN IT.SHOW PPL U CARING GOT NO PT.
In e past u stil noe how 2 buy medi when im sick, buy bread 4 my followin day's bfast, u'll ask mi if im hungry n wil bring mi out 2 eat. Now i haf 2 say, " hubby, im hungry liao, wat time u wanna eat?" den u bring mi out 2 eat... Or else 24 hr stick 2 ur com... Smtimes itz not i wanna fall sick, i take care of myself doesnt mean i 100% wont fall sick mah. U oso not dunno my health... -
hopefully.dear me going out wif nel 4 lunch later.later go out liao let u noe.i duno wat time yetOriginally posted by shan_cai:Dis one i understand. I nv expect u 2 pick mi up liao mah. Wat more u wan? Ur 1st offday always itz i go ur place myself liao ok? Since tat time we quarrel abt dis issue i already nv blame u when u wan mi go bk myself.
Im understandin. Not like b4 liao ok? -
Den we meet once a wk loh. Hope by den u'll not b as obsessed wif ur com as u r now... Yes itz ur leisure n hobby 2 surf net, but far too extreme liao...Originally posted by mitolover:I think its true lah.not to the extend tat we restrict each other not to call or meet up lah.But me n my dear meets everysingle day.oni when im at work or shes at work.i need time do go wif frenz and do my own stuff or hobbies.Shes staying wif me at my place now and seldom goes home.now we got arguement of im using computer sufing net and nv accompany her.I think if we r at home 24hrs.how to accompany her the whole day with doing some other stuff.
So i suggested some of the days dun meet as i need to slp.no point she come my place n i slp.Have to realli work out on this. -
Anythin. U c, u haf so much time wif ur frenz but not mi... Always c u meetin him 4 lunch. I wanna haf dinner wif u oso hard. Ask u acc mi do dis do tat oso say no time. Stil muz arrange.Originally posted by mitolover:hopefully.dear me going out wif nel 4 lunch later.later go out liao let u noe.i duno wat time yet -
hi shan_cai...
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i told u dun restict like how many days we meet liao.if need jus call n meet loh.y must meet once a week?Originally posted by shan_cai:Den we meet once a wk loh. Hope by den u'll not b as obsessed wif ur com as u r now... Yes itz ur leisure n hobby 2 surf net, but far too extreme liao...
wats the defination of too extreme sufing the net.i dun surf 24 hrs.jus tat my com is always on.when i sian i will on monitor n look 4 something fun. -
where got?tat time nv wake up acc u eat is oni once leh.cause im too tired after work.but everytime i oso eat wif u leh.everday we eat breakfast lunch n dinner together if we nv work on the same day.no meh?????????????????????????????????????????Originally posted by shan_cai:Anythin. U c, u haf so much time wif ur frenz but not mi... Always c u meetin him 4 lunch. I wanna haf dinner wif u oso hard. Ask u acc mi do dis do tat oso say no time. Stil muz arrange.