any R/s expert?
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hi everyone,
i m facing a r/s problem right now. i have been single all these while in my life. afew months back, i have this crush on this girl from the same camp. tru some sheer chance, i managed to get her number, all these while, i have been chatting with her tru msn / fb and everything seems quite alrite. i was bold enough to ask if she is single and she said 'yes'. i was damn happy and tot i would stand a chance in dating her.
Previously, i tried to ask for lunch with her in sch but she is always busy. so i tot hols would be a better opportunity to ask her out since everyone would be more free. then afew weeks ago i send her 2 separate sms asking if can go out for lunch that kind but she didnt reply. on the third attempt , i asked her over msn and she took quite long to reply. she says ' ok but not so soon'. then i proceeded to kind of arrange a date with her but then after that she nv reply at all liao. since then, i nv talk to her or sms her le.
I really hope i can have the chance of dating her but now the possibility seems like very low. her bday is coming up and i have already bought her a gift. recently i hear rumours that some other guy is jioing her as well. i feel damn sad. its like the first time i take such an active approach in knowing more about a girl because last time i used to be very passive and 'bo chup' that kind.
also, i dont have the looks and wealth, making me feel inferior to her coz she is quite pretty and she looks abit that kind of high maintenance one. my friends told me i should give up while some said i havent really talk much to her. i dont know what to do from here, can anyone esp girls advise me from here?
regards
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my dear, how old are you?
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21 this year.. a noob when comes to this kind of stuff
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Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
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also, i dont have the looks and wealth, making me feel inferior to her ...
i want to say "looks and wealth...is not everything" but unfortunately it is true.
No looks and no wealth...no chance already man. But don't worry. If got ambition anything also you can have.
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my 2 cents of advise.... try to go out with her as a friend and know her friends. Don't rush. Give yourself few months to know her and friends better...
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@spidey3: this world is really cruel. everyone is so superifical.. based on looks and benefits. haiz... think next time i just get a vietnam wife.
@chefmac: how to go about asking her out as a fren?
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Find out her ECA, things we do in group in school and outside school. Let say, she join as a community service members, join that ECA. Or... lets say, she's with the SPCA, join SPCA.... partcipate in their activities. Don't rush and learn not to be a follower behind her. Lets keep in mind, you are always somewhere near her. She will take note of you and maybe through activities, relationship will improve. =)
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Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
hi everyone,
i m facing a r/s problem right now. i have been single all these while in my life. afew months back, i have this crush on this girl from the same camp. tru some sheer chance, i managed to get her number, all these while, i have been chatting with her tru msn / fb and everything seems quite alrite. i was bold enough to ask if she is single and she said 'yes'. i was damn happy and tot i would stand a chance in dating her.
Previously, i tried to ask for lunch with her in sch but she is always busy. so i tot hols would be a better opportunity to ask her out since everyone would be more free. then afew weeks ago i send her 2 separate sms asking if can go out for lunch that kind but she didnt reply. on the third attempt , i asked her over msn and she took quite long to reply. she says ' ok but not so soon'. then i proceeded to kind of arrange a date with her but then after that she nv reply at all liao. since then, i nv talk to her or sms her le.
I really hope i can have the chance of dating her but now the possibility seems like very low. her bday is coming up and i have already bought her a gift. recently i hear rumours that some other guy is jioing her as well. i feel damn sad. its like the first time i take such an active approach in knowing more about a girl because last time i used to be very passive and 'bo chup' that kind.
also, i dont have the looks and wealth, making me feel inferior to her coz she is quite pretty and she looks abit that kind of high maintenance one. my friends told me i should give up while some said i havent really talk much to her. i dont know what to do from here, can anyone esp girls advise me from here?
regards
You barely know her and she also barely know you. Chatting on MSN and Facebook don't means anything at all.And also it depends on how you communicate with her, the way you phrased your sentence whether politely or not, indifferent or not, straightforward or not, relax enough or not...all makes a difference to the result that you are seeking.
If you got no looks and weath, and if you cannot even talk properly and if you're really not a people-caring type of person, then you are really not as good as you claimed to be. She can sense it from the chat and so can I.
Normally she will tell you both of you got no chemistry and it's better to remain as friends. But I believed you must have said something or your attitude towards her in the chats, makes her feel unattracted to you.
It's difficult if she's not attracted to you, but if you got enough balls and guts and great sense of humour and sparkling personality, you might just be able to pull through.
If you don't, then you need to help yourself to become someone who got all these criterias.
Why don't you tell us HOW YOU GOT HER NUMBER BY SHEER CHANCE?
REALLY SO TERRIBLY LUCKY THAT DAY?
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you know her from same camp?
both of you in the army?
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@parn thanks for ur advice.
o okie the story goes like this. i was on my way to learn driving lessons when i saw her at some bus stop. because i was in a rush i couldnt alight to say 'hi'. then that nite, i just msn her saying i saw her. she asked why didnt i go and greet her. i replied ' coz i was in a rush to drivinf and i dont have ur number. may i have ur number ?" then she proceeded to give me hers over msn =) .....
@deathmaster
not army camp la lol... orientation camps =.-
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from my expierenced. i don like to slowly sms all that like wat u did. i prefer straight forward.ask her wanna be my gf or not. reject nvm.there are alot more trees in the jungle. i had been rejected many times and success many times. my current gf is with me for 2 years already.
be straight forward don be ps
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Hi,
I may not be a relationship expert but i have been through 2 r/s before. It is a good thing that you have been actively chatting with her and spending the thought to get her a birthday present. For the part where she says she is busy and only replied the third time you asked her, she might be hinting you, in my opinion. Firstly, she might not want to go out with you(which i hope not) or might just be busy. Or she could be hinting you to act faster or go an extra mile in asking her out for a meal (e.g. proposing a nice place to dine or go about a more creative approach). What I want to tell you is that girls do not like to wait too long, thus if you are sincere about this girl and really like being with her then you should go for it. Also, do not feel so bad about other boys jioing her, you must be strong and move on as there will always be challenges, just be at your best and do not worry so much and you will stand more chance. I am sure she notices something unique about you compared with others. Good luck!
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@ 韩飞官 : i think very hard for me coz i scared the girl will be scared off after that. so i take it slow n steady. all i ask for is a chance now. anyway tks for ur advice. hope u and ur gf ever - lasting =)
@samu~ : hi!
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If it is yours, it is yours.....At least u try asking her out...just move on to other targets....><"
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Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
@parn thanks for ur advice.
o okie the story goes like this. i was on my way to learn driving lessons when i saw her at some bus stop. because i was in a rush i couldnt alight to say 'hi'. then that nite, i just msn her saying i saw her. she asked why didnt i go and greet her. i replied ' coz i was in a rush to drivinf and i dont have ur number. may i have ur number ?" then she proceeded to give me hers over msn =) .....
@deathmaster
not army camp la lol... orientation camps =.-
You mean the girl that you like is your classmate from the same school? -
Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
Previously, i tried to ask for lunch with her in sch but she is always busy.
under what circumstances would you be 'always busy' when a particular girl kept asking you for lunch?
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Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
also, i dont have the looks and wealth, making me feel inferior to her coz she is quite pretty and she looks abit that kind of high maintenance one. my friends told me i should give up while some said i havent really talk much to her. i dont know what to do from here, can anyone esp girls advise me from here?
regards
I think you call her on the phone better lah....why be so impersonal by using online media...then wait for reply.....young people nowadays dunno how to talk on the phone meh?? Ask her out lor...tell her u want to be her steady lor! Hohoho!
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No looks no money ish ok
Gotch personality and charm?
Dun have den can go start finding your vietnamese wife liaoz
BTW, I don't think she's interested. Any girl who's interested would make time for you no matter how busy she is.
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agree with littlemissbonkers.
another reason to explain this is that. this girl enjoy the feeling of been woo again.some girls likes this kinds of feeling.
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true true... guys like that kinda of feeling. Humansssss we are complexed animals..
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haha mai sleep?
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should i just give up?
i think i m just dumb
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Yeah... sleeping time~~~
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Originally posted by RecoBar0s:
should i just give up?
i think i m just dumb
give it a last try