Should men always pay for their dates?

• single_alone

  10 Dec 10, 15:40

  Originally posted by Essential2468:

  no lah...my sis is not bad looking one .that jerk is then the fugly one - in and out.

  think ruhua also better looking than him.

  
  intro your sis to me lah

• single_alone

  10 Dec 10, 15:41

  Originally posted by Essential2468:

  u no pai seh if women pay on 1st date meh?

  
  woman pay on 1st date than guy pay on 2nd date cannot meh?

• Essential2468

  10 Dec 10, 15:41

  Originally posted by elindra:

  I think her sis is damn suay la

  So far my dates I also never kenna a cheapo guy before. Even if I offer to pay, they insist on paying

  yar ...i nvr see a guy so cheapo like that one b4. usually the guys wun let me pay at 1st dates also.

• Essential2468

  10 Dec 10, 15:45

  Originally posted by single_alone:

  
  woman pay on 1st date than guy pay on 2nd date cannot meh?

  like that ok lah...but usually men pay if they are the ones asking the ladies out.if the ladies insist on paying..then the guy can keep his wallet lah.but not ALWAYS the ladies pay lah...men are supposed to give the 'good provider' image.

• elindra

  10 Dec 10, 15:45

  Either that guy is not interested in yr sis or he's doomed to be single so whatever la

  Just move on

• Essential2468

  10 Dec 10, 15:50

  Originally posted by elindra:

  Either that guy is not interested in yr sis or he's doomed to be single so whatever la

  Just move on

  my sis moved on fast. bet that kiam siap lou still single.

• ShrodingersCat

  10 Dec 10, 15:52

  If both parties are working adults, think if its a date, the guy should offer to pay. And the girl should be automatic to pay for coffee/drinks/ dessert later on.

  But if a guy first date insist on calculating every single cent who pay what, then cannot imagine rest of the rship with him.

   

  I went for an interesting 'date' once. I didn't know when the guy asked me out that it was a DATE date cos we've been out in a group before. So before that I met a girlfriend and just asked her along, then when we went to eat, he said he'll pay for ME but not for HER. I think he paid for both of us first, then he accepted money from her, but refused to accept money from me. walao so paisay!!!

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 15:55

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  Alot alot alot of Singaporean guys are like that, kiam siap or niao, especially engineers.

  
  engineers are calulative coz its in their blood but not cheapo unless u r not even worth for them to spend a single cents on u

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 15:59

  Originally posted by Askingyouto:

  I have been eating that for many years, my dental surgeon says that soft rice cooked on top of slippers will help my poor old teeth and old gums.

  
  i bet u didnt have a date for decades

• Essential2468

  10 Dec 10, 16:00

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  
  i bet u didnt have a date for decades

  u be surprised.

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:06

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  
  engineers are calulative coz its in their blood but not cheapo unless u r not even worth for them to spend a single cents on u

  
  What blood?

  So when you send your children to study to become an engineer, something changed in them?

   

  Singaporean guys are all born to be kiam siap, niao, cheapo. The smarter ones knows how to correct their own weakness and learn why they need to be generous. 

   

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:08

  Originally posted by single_alone:

  
  If you 1st date only want the guy to pay for you people will think you very materalistic

  
  single_alone is probably a guy.

  No wonder he's still single_alone.

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 16:13

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  What blood?

  So when you send your children to study to become an engineer, something changed in them?

   

  Singaporean guys are all born to be kiam siap, niao, cheapo. The smarter ones knows how to correct their own weakness and learn why they need to be generous.  

  general singaporean are trying to survive unless they see potential otherwise it will be a waste of time and money

  dun u like a smart guy with brain? 

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:23

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  general singaporean are trying to survive unless they see potential otherwise it will be a waste of time and money

  dun u like a smart guy with brain? 

  
  So you meant general singaporeans are trying to make ends meet by being thrifty and kiam siap and niao?

  My point of view is if these general singaporeans really need to do that to maintain their own survival, then it will be difficult for them to impress their dates or the girl of their interests.

  A cool date will pay for their girl, so these general singaporeans don't even qualify as a cool date for any girls to go out with them.

   

  A decent smart guy with brain will be smart enough to know how to earn more money to allow him to pay for his date comfortably.

  No need to have ferrari 458, but if the guy need to ask the taxi driver if there's any surcharge when his date is also in the taxi, then that doesn't makes him smart or generous or cool at all to his date.

• Essential2468

  10 Dec 10, 16:25

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  If both parties are working adults, think if its a date, the guy should offer to pay. And the girl should be automatic to pay for coffee/drinks/ dessert later on.

  But if a guy first date insist on calculating every single cent who pay what, then cannot imagine rest of the rship with him.

   

  I went for an interesting 'date' once. I didn't know when the guy asked me out that it was a DATE date cos we've been out in a group before. So before that I met a girlfriend and just asked her along, then when we went to eat, he said he'll pay for ME but not for HER. I think he paid for both of us first, then he accepted money from her, but refused to accept money from me. walao so paisay!!!

  that's a bit too calculative for anybody's comfort.

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 16:32

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  So you meant general singaporeans are trying to make ends meet by being thrifty and kiam siap and niao?

  My point of view is if these general singaporeans really need to do that to maintain their own survival, then it will be difficult for them to impress their dates or the girl of their interests.

  A cool date will pay for their girl, so these general singaporeans don't even qualify as a cool date for any girls to go out with them.

   

  A decent smart guy with brain will be smart enough to know how to earn more money to allow him to pay for his date comfortably.

  No need to have ferrari 458, but if the guy need to ask the taxi driver if there's any surcharge when his date is also in the taxi, then that doesn't makes him smart or generous or cool at all to his date.

  a cool date needs a cool girl

  why date a girl when she is trying to be expensive when she herself is a cheapo?

    

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:32

  Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

  If both parties are working adults, think if its a date, the guy should offer to pay. And the girl should be automatic to pay for coffee/drinks/ dessert later on.

  But if a guy first date insist on calculating every single cent who pay what, then cannot imagine rest of the rship with him.

   

  I went for an interesting 'date' once. I didn't know when the guy asked me out that it was a DATE date cos we've been out in a group before. So before that I met a girlfriend and just asked her along, then when we went to eat, he said he'll pay for ME but not for HER. I think he paid for both of us first, then he accepted money from her, but refused to accept money from me. walao so paisay!!!

  
  It happens, but the girl also at fault in this scenario.

  If she's not comfortable to go out with the guy alone, then decline the outing.

  Bringing or suggesting to bring another girl friend along is really just a bad idea.

   

  In cases like this, it will also affect the friendship between the girl and her girl friend. We can forgive but we cannot forget.

  Guys should remember this important fact about us.

• maxsee

  10 Dec 10, 16:33

  Singapore girls most of them cannot make it one la....their face also not so pretty...want this want that...expect guys to pay for them everything....best is GO DUTCH...wtf must we pay for the girls...then after marriage also all so hard up...when divorce first thing all do is demand $$$...all $_$ face...

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:35

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  a cool date needs a cool girl

  why date a girl when they trying to be expensive when she herself is a cheapo?

    

  
  Not all girls are poor, especially when they are the only child in her family.

  But if the girl is poor, then why wouldn't she appreciate the kind gesture of being treated by the guy when they are out on a date?

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:37

  Originally posted by maxsee:

  Singapore girls most of them cannot make it one la....their face also not so pretty...want this want that...expect guys to pay for them everything....best is GO DUTCH...wtf must we pay for the girls...then after marriage also all so hard up...when divorce first thing all do is demand $$$...all $_$ face...

  
  I will feel sorry for you if that is your real opinion about this topic.

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 16:42

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  Not all girls are poor, especially when they are the only child in her family.

  But if the girl is poor, then why wouldn't she appreciate the kind gesture of being treated by the guy when they are out on a date?

  
  its not monetary be taken as a yard stick to measure cheapo

  its the perception of how u see wealth 

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 16:48

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  
  its not monetary be taken as a yard stick to measure cheapo

  its the perception of how u see wealth 

  
  And cheapo is a bad word to be used on a girl by the way.

  Thrifty is probably the word you are missing from your dictionary.

• seyKai

  10 Dec 10, 17:32

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  And cheapo is a bad word to be used on a girl by the way.

  Thrifty is probably the word you are missing from your dictionary.

  
  i must apologise if you r offended by the word "cheapo"

  u meant to say guys are cheapo and girls are thrithy?

   

   

• single_alone

  10 Dec 10, 17:35

  Originally posted by parn:

  
  single_alone is probably a guy.

  No wonder he's still single_alone.

  
  ya I am single and alone and living a very happy life

  thanks for your concern

• parn

  10 Dec 10, 17:36

  Originally posted by seyKai:

  
  i must apologise if you r offended by the word "cheapo"

  u meant to say guys are cheapo and girls are thrithy?

   

   

  
  Did I say guys are cheapo?

  Find it first then come and accuse me about it.