Hi all,
I met a China lady and started dating recently. She is on a holiday trip to Singapore to visit her relative. My friends told me to beware as they believe the lady is here for other motive and not purely just to visit relative. What are you guys' opinions?
Recently we started to talk about marriage. Anyone here whom yourself or friends have china wife, do share your experiences. What are your advice?
Hard to predict.
Some good some bad.
Make your own judgement. Hope it is a good wife.
try this lor... pretend that you're poor, everything also dun hav.. and even to the extent of needing to borrow money from her... a few Ks at each time, u see she'll still stay wif u anot lor.. most likely she will point this to u..
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Originally posted by likeyou:Hard to predict.
Some good some bad.
Make your own judgement. Hope it is a good wife.
no lor...so easy to predict most are bad
Bring her to eat at hawker center, bring her to buy cheap clothing, tell her cannot afford to buy car, can afford 3 hdb room flat. Tell her can give her allowance of only few hundred dollars only...see her reaction. If she open her mouth and eye wide, can forget about her liao.
Recently met only then start to talk abt marriage. Got so click or not? Remember both are from different countries, different thinking & a lot of differences between both of you. Honeymoon period of course is sweet, don't wait till married liao, regret & its too late.
roborobo....
i think rabaraba is good enuf...dun get yrself entangled
Yes, open up your eye and ear and see carefully before you jump onto the boat without return.
Dont get conned. But not saying all PRC are like that.Just be careful
Originally posted by TTFU:Dont get conned. But not saying all PRC are like that.Just be careful
100% agreed.
Be very very very careful.
FT again !!! including wife !!
Once they (PRC) mingles around with their comrades...
they will likely....
your life....
My friend who is married to a chinawomen says he spanks his wife regularly cos she likes to shit/urine in the toilet without closing the door, He says a chinawomen needs to be spank to be toilet train.
???IF SHES KIND...THEN ITS OK...IF NOT...SHE MAY BE AS GOOD AS A SINGAPOREAN GAL IN $$$$$ OUTLOOK.
they will want easily a few grand for allowance lah. any less how to go back to china and show face?
Originally posted by gUms:My friend who is married to a chinawomen says he spanks his wife regularly cos she likes to shit/urine in the toilet without closing the door, He says a chinawomen needs to be spank to be toilet train.
wow lao from village...must get girls from cities lah......can't afford than don't go for PRC go for other asian Girl better......!!!!
Please sit down with her to discuss about her expectations in marriage. Most of the time, people just dive into it without thinking of consequences. Ask her, if her family back in China, do you need to support them? Worst would be if her family, ask money from you to support the entire village. This happened to my friend before. The money went to build temples, walkway, schools, walls and well for the village. It's not cheap.
Having said that, there are still good china ladies around who are rational in their expectations and knows how to think for their partner. If your partner happens to fall into this category, congratulations. =)
TS,
.....match married has been done since in the 20's and 30s especially early migrant male who settled down in Singapore and Malaysia. so it is not anything new. But back in the 30s match married the girls really a innocent girl from the village.....!!!
But in all honesty folks from less develop countries would want to settle down and have a "better lifestyle" so they are looking for better financial terms.
The key note is "EXPECTATION" Does she expect you to stay in 5 star hotel and drive a car and she is a "TAI TAI" fantasy?
Background check.....Have she married and have kids and seperated?
Ever considered other countries and not limit to PRC? maybe the risk factor would be lower?
majority of singaporeans are biased against PRCs. there are good and bad people among all races and nationalities. you are marrying one girl, not the whole china population.
go find out about her and her only!!
why bother about other people's experiences?
Originally posted by gUms:My friend who is married to a chinawomen says he spanks his wife regularly cos she likes to shit/urine in the toilet without closing the door, He says a chinawomen needs to be spank to be toilet train.
In rural China, toilet comes without doors..
Careful, later she weightlift your friend and throw him through the windows. .
Originally posted by dragg:majority of singaporeans are biased against PRCs. there are good and bad people among all races and nationalities. you are marrying one girl, not the whole china population.
go find out about her and her only!!
why bother about other people's experiences?
People experiences provide vaulable lesson of do's and don't's.
Originally posted by dragg:majority of singaporeans are biased against PRCs. there are good and bad people among all races and nationalities. you are marrying one girl, not the whole china population.
go find out about her and her only!!
why bother about other people's experiences?
Marriage is for life. If TS don't find out more about her culture and perception on family, by then wouldn't it be too late to ask for a divorce? As much as we can say TS is only marrying one girl, and not the whole of china, we have to admit that the PRC are still relatively poor. Unless we are talking about people from Shang Hai and Beijing.
And in the Chinese culture, the children has to support their parents in their old age. Shouldn't TS check what their demands are? If their family back then ask once in a while for $10k, just to build a school for the village, should this burden lie upon the shoulders of TS just because he is from Singapore a richer country?
b4 marriage with her, bring her go check see gt STD a not
no matter which foreign country u get a wife from, there will always be issue of:
1) supporting wife's family/relations
2) spending precious holiday time always in the same old place (wife's hometown) unless u sponsor the family for a trip together away.
so... look for a orphan best.