What to look out for in a relationship?
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Originally posted by maskedangel:
Dear threadstarter,
The high resistance that is forcing u to still be with her may be due to the fact that you are too used to having her by your side?
Talk things out.
She may say all those bullshit such as admitting she’s treated u bad and that you deserve better and stuff, but if she realli loves you, she can’t bear to let you leave.
It’s kinda like a fiend’s grip, if you know what I mean.
Cheers
that's quite scary actually.. both can't bear to leave each other but both psychologically destroying each other...like i said, it's a death spiral
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Originally posted by Zoukiehornikie:
Great advise on that! I shall do that on the next quarrel?
Then how about your issues now? What are you going to do about it? The more you sweep it under the carpet, you are just building up the r/s problems that you have. Settle the earlier the better, at least you know whether you are on the right track or not.
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TS...
to prevent further nightmare in your already nightmare situation.... pls wake up and save some pride for yourself....
if I'm in your shoes... i would have show this (below pic) to her long time ago....
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Best advice if u love her too much. Diao Kia la. Just fark and get her pregnant. During Pregnacy show her your tolerance, love, care and concern. She feel very love and she born u a kid. Girl normally give birth already more because of kid they will usually stick with the hubby.
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Originally posted by Just_do_it_lah:
TS...
to prevent further nightmare in your already nightmare situation.... pls wake up and save some pride for yourself....
if I'm in your shoes... i would have show this (below pic) to her long time ago....
This one also can. Show her you are not pushover. If you are neat and presentable. I think sure got girl like u one. Always remenber there are few billion of girls waiting for you to love them. China so many. Ang mo also can. Vietnam good bride.
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Originally posted by Itedino:
This one also can. Show her you are not pushover. If you are neat and presentable. I think sure got girl like u one. Always remenber there are few billion of girls waiting for you to love them. China so many. Ang mo also can. Vietnam good bride.
hahaha... hopefully, no need FT on this...
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Find someone who appreciates you. Perhaps you need to change also. Clash of characters is no no. But how much does she love u ?
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if you free... read this book.....
Read the book's cover will do lah... siao... read whole book... where got time...
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TS's gf sounds like a certain forumnite here...
Forms of Dating Violence
1) Emotional Abuse
- hurling insults or swearing at you
- belittling you
- threatening or terrorizing you
- destroying your property or possessions
- isolating you from friends and relatives
- being irrationally possessive
- extreme jealousy from partner
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forget about it.. we know its hard.. but move on.. try and u r young.
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love is a game;hate the game, not the players...
it's better that you two seperate
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add in this
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typical attention seeker..dump her for ur own good
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Originally posted by Zoukiehornikie:
Hi all,
I would need advises from all guys and gers.
I am attached, but somehow I do feel that I am treated like shit by my ger. Worst, she claimed that she treated me really like shit. She would just bring up the idea of breaking up as and when she likes. I feel hurt whenever she said this through sms. I feel that I am the one who is saving this relationship, but not her. I may be wrong, and I am not sure.
She can get angry for small issues, which I have to tolerate it. I do reflection on myself, is the problem lies with me or she is not my league?
Please advise. Feel free to ask me for details.
Ask yourself why it is important for you/her to find out who is at fault and right/wrong?Is it really necessary to draw a clear line pointing out who was at fault?
Do you think a relationship should be about who's right/wrong fault/faultless?
Do you need her? Does she needs you too?
Do you love her? Is your own pain/distress/frustrations more important than hers?
Love isn't about compromising or being fair / calculative or gain / loss.
Love is about taking damage from your loved ones and don't brood over it because you loved her.
In a relationship, it is necessary for the guy to take a hit on the chin sometimes like a man and shrug it off for the sake of his girl.
Afterall, you can never repay or return the amount of love you have received or given because people who were loved, will have absolutely no idea that they were loved.
Treasure your time with her and STOP COUNTING YOUR "MISFORTUNE" AND START COUNTING YOUR BLESSINGS!
But it's true that we are unreasonable sometimes, and it's not what we had planned. It's because we cannot even control it for ourselves. So if you love us, you just gotta learn how to take it in the chin with a smile. Where has all the thick-skin evaporated into??
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<<we cannot even control it for ourselves>>
even u cannot explain this....
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i think u have enslaved yourself to her whims and fancies...and thats not love...do make the clear distinction...
many times guys would fall into the same mistake over and over again....
u have to live up to her whims and stand tall ...by allowing yourself to succumb to hers..she would have already lost her respect for your personality...
u have to shake and wake her up a little...dump her if necessary
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bitches would want you to be enslaved..remember
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its a lamentable part of the singapore education as condoned by the system
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look out for her upskirt la
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oh ya....give her a blue black eye if possible on your way out
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
oh ya....give her a blue black eye if possible on your way out
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and bitches would only tell you not to be calculative....because only they can calculate...
真是三脚猫....