Why is it that single women place pre-condition on frenship?
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I am 27 years old man who just started working for a company located in Tg Pagar. I am still single but haven't found the right person in my life. I sympathise with women who in their late age and are eager to settle down but why must most of the time they force pair themselves with single men who are not interested in them?
There is this lady in the office that wants my attention and is always getting this manager whom I work closely with, to try to give me problems. He (the manager) constantly try to denegrade me, speak to me rudely and give me utter disrespect. Then when she thinks that I am seen to be flustered and frustrated, she tries to come near me as if wanting to be friends. I am not trying to be unfriendly but why must she resort to such dirty tactics to try to get to know me better? I did not want to be too open at her because her intentions don't seem to be very genuine.
Then secondly there is anotehr lady who constantly want to be popular and always wanting attention. Because I tend to sink into my work and not conversate a lot, she became frustrated at my lack of attention at her. Days after that, some people started being rude at me, not given me the teamwork I wanted. But I made my stand and I don't polish shoe and I just be myself and do my best at my work.
From this two cases, I find that single women seem to want to set a lot of pre-conditions on their offer of friendship which seem to have dubious intentions. I do not mind making friends with single women so as long as they don't take advantage of my status of being single and instead want to be chased after in return. Don't they understand that the guy is not interested in them? Friendships with single women are very difficult because they always want the single guy's attention, and when they don't get it, they become frustrated and start attacking the guy. Why is this so? I am very sure generally not all single women think like this, only the bad apples.
It is so difficult to find genuine friendships with single women because 1) they are suspicious of your intentions 2) their intentions are suspicious and they impose pre-conditions that want to be showered with attention.
First, we men don't really have the luxury of choosing whom we want to be because we are always forced paired with somebody we are not interested in. I can understand that some women are eager to get married because of age but they must understand too, the liking must be mutual, the guy is not interested.
Second, when we men find somebody we are interested in, why is it that woman we are interested in always tend to get people to attack us and want us to look miserable, only then she thinks we are genuine and honest in liking them? I dislike this kind of approach. I have never come across men who like their women, get to start a relationship from frienship (not all friendship). Instead it has to be a bidding war and we men have to chase to woman like a trophy case? Why must be like this? With my previous girl friend, I had to go through a barrage of humiliating trials, where I was mocked and insulted by her friends. And now, it seems that it is repeating again on those women that I like. They really bargain very high. Why can't everything be simple and start from honest friendship, makan together and watch movie?
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you're mixing with the wrong people
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you should give your manager a...............
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TS,
u have the same fate as another guy mentioned by another fellow forumer in her thread..........
the poor guy is 30 years old and kanna the same treatment like u....
haizzzzzzzzzzz.............
talk about being bullied.................
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Hmm. Sounds very very similar to another thread previously. I got doubts on your identity TS.
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You sound like the guy kena stalk here
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TS,
that's what u call mind games...........
Ignore those stupid, silly women who do these
if i were u, i will definitely be pissed off by her and treat her as if she does not exist at all
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Bisexual personality disorder?
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u haven met someone who is mature in terms of personality...woman who does that usually is a childish girl in the disguise..argh~~
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Originally posted by TYING:
Hmm. Sounds very very similar to another thread previously. I got doubts on your identity TS.
me toolol
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this is working life...you've yet to meet worse stuffs
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Originally posted by TYING:
Hmm. Sounds very very similar to another thread previously. I got doubts on your identity TS.
The age is different.
Anyway, Working Man, go tell this woman:
Stupid Woman, You are a Chaocheebye, fuck you. With you this kind of character you create stupid office politics out of nothing just because of your irrational needs. I curse you fucking Woman no son no child no eyes no mouth!
Fuck you this kind of woman around
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You sound exactly like that guy in the other thread, except he is the victim.
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yeah...
one is a fat, round (like a ball) lady
this one a 27 guy....
the only things remains CONSTANT..... is.....
Bangulzai's reply....
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TS,
I do not know what make you think these woman wants your attention because they are interested in YOU. They maybe playing games but certainly does not imply "interested in you"
At work it is your people managing skills to bring people together to work as a team....don't think you are making headway if this is how you react to these ladies in the office.
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Originally posted by Working Man:
I am 27 years old man who just started working for a company located in Tg Pagar. I am still single but haven't found the right person in my life. I sympathise with women who in their late age and are eager to settle down but why must most of the time they force pair themselves with single men who are not interested in them?
There is this lady in the office that wants my attention and is always getting this manager whom I work closely with, to try to give me problems. He (the manager) constantly try to denegrade me, speak to me rudely and give me utter disrespect. Then when she thinks that I am seen to be flustered and frustrated, she tries to come near me as if wanting to be friends. I am not trying to be unfriendly but why must she resort to such dirty tactics to try to get to know me better? I did not want to be too open at her because her intentions don't seem to be very genuine.
Then secondly there is anotehr lady who constantly want to be popular and always wanting attention. Because I tend to sink into my work and not conversate a lot, she became frustrated at my lack of attention at her. Days after that, some people started being rude at me, not given me the teamwork I wanted. But I made my stand and I don't polish shoe and I just be myself and do my best at my work.
From this two cases, I find that single women seem to want to set a lot of pre-conditions on their offer of friendship which seem to have dubious intentions. I do not mind making friends with single women so as long as they don't take advantage of my status of being single and instead want to be chased after in return. Don't they understand that the guy is not interested in them? Friendships with single women are very difficult because they always want the single guy's attention, and when they don't get it, they become frustrated and start attacking the guy. Why is this so? I am very sure generally not all single women think like this, only the bad apples.
It is so difficult to find genuine friendships with single women because 1) they are suspicious of your intentions 2) their intentions are suspicious and they impose pre-conditions that want to be showered with attention.
First, we men don't really have the luxury of choosing whom we want to be because we are always forced paired with somebody we are not interested in. I can understand that some women are eager to get married because of age but they must understand too, the liking must be mutual, the guy is not interested.
Second, when we men find somebody we are interested in, why is it that woman we are interested in always tend to get people to attack us and want us to look miserable, only then she thinks we are genuine and honest in liking them? I dislike this kind of approach. I have never come across men who like their women, get to start a relationship from frienship (not all friendship). Instead it has to be a bidding war and we men have to chase to woman like a trophy case? Why must be like this? With my previous girl friend, I had to go through a barrage of humiliating trials, where I was mocked and insulted by her friends. And now, it seems that it is repeating again on those women that I like. They really bargain very high. Why can't everything be simple and start from honest friendship, makan together and watch movie?
You did not do a thorough job of FOCUSING AND SINKING INTO YOUR WORK.If you did, why would you even be bothered by who and who did what to you?
Why would you even care who mocked or what insults were hurled towards you?
Your focusing needs more focus!
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yeah its the mirror opposite of the other thread.
sort of like Clint Eastwood's Flags of our Fathers / Letters from Iwo Jima
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i think you think too much and you are too self-concentraded.
just because things arnt smooth for you in some part of your life
you try to shift the blame onto some1 other ppl.
given yr kind of attitude, you will feel woman is yr enemy everywhere you go.
think you might as well as go be a gay better.
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your eq not high enough to handle this sort of office environment. either go for course upgrade or find a job that dont require so much eq. for example, mac counter staff. that one, no eq level requirement.
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Originally posted by parn:
You did not do a thorough job of FOCUSING AND SINKING INTO YOUR WORK.If you did, why would you even be bothered by who and who did what to you?
Why would you even care who mocked or what insults were hurled towards you?
Your focusing needs more focus!
with people at work ganging up against TS, even if he focus on his work, it will be futile.
Since these two persons are determined to bring TS down, nothing can stop them.
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I'm sorry but i need to tell you the truth. Those are not women, those are demons.
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Originally posted by Fallen-Angel:
I'm sorry but i need to tell you the truth. Those are not women, those are demons.
So those 'women' are your minions...
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Originally posted by Simple_Bear:
So those 'women' are your minions...
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Originally posted by Fallen-Angel:
Devious plan exposed.
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TS,
The women are trying to bend your will to make you serve them...that's why they
pre-condition you