Power of love
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Regardless whether you like it, love is a power play. The party with lower interest is the boss and will mostly get his/her way in times of differences. If Brad loves Angelina 95% and Angelina loves Brad 85%, Angelina has the power. Why? Simply because Angelina will have less to lose in the event of a break up. Similarly, Brad will have the power when the situation is reversed.
What's the use of power in romantic relationships? Well, you usually never get what you want or deserve, you'll only get what you negotiate. To be able to negotiate for what you want, you need to have power over the other party. Once your relationship have surpassed the so-called honeymoon period, you will need to rely a lot more on negotiation to get what you want. When there are differences, one party will have to give in. When both parties refuse to give in, the divorce lawyers call that irreconcilable differences (that's legitimate grounds for divorce in the eyes of the law). I don't think you will ever want to get into that situation. The moment of truth will come when you get into your first big disagreement with her, usually the one who gives in first does not have the power. That's the power of love, isn't that sweet? -
One cannot live on love and fresh air alone.
