BGR Problems. Please advise.
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Originally posted by A C MAX:
The best is not to have girlfirend till finsh ns why i am saying this is todays world what is call love ? for not going for and movie this girl make and big issue huh? cmon she things she own him, huh? yes guys sometime use certain excuses , why i am telling all this is i have an son who is doing his ns, just last mth went to tekong and he comes back on friday rest for a while and throw all his cloths in the washing marchine and goes out with his buddy to watch the world cup and that includes some of his new army mates and come back late morning and sleep till late afternoon, and spend some time at home, and then again go out at night and see matches and back early morning, i did ask him, hey are you having gf? he ask what i think? i think better not and he say yes better not all else i will be having hard times at night in the camp every day . well he is 20 after poly and when my time i was in the army i dont have pager or mobile all i use was the public phone, time changes alot all i can say to girls and guys think of the future dont spoil your youth, yes have friends and also if you thing having relationship then think all the factors, now days for the sake of having bf or gf and just cause their friends have they also must have , its wrong one this topc, by snowchick2005 if i am the was the young man i will notcall for and breakoff if she really nice and sincere but if she still the same way as before just call it a day cause in future if u dont comply to her she will start over all again and its not worth cause yesterday will never come back again
You are a concerned parent. Many parents have their views on relationships. Some youths get into relationship deal to peer pressure. But some are geninue. In such era, no one believe in true love or even love but that doesn't mean it don't exist. A one is mature and serious about relationship, age is never a factor. For a mature and serious couple, they can advance in their lives and also be together. Sometime, relationship can be a source of motivation to do well in their lives as there is a purpose. So please do not think that having a relationship spoils our youth. There is good and bad . We got to look at two sides of the coin plus everyone sees relationship at a different light. If your son even have a girlfriend now, my advice is let it be. Unless you know that your son is not ready to commit or not mature enough to handle such responsibilties, then maybe you should step in. You know your son best and you will know when he is ready and when he is not. But do not stop him if he is ready and YOU are not. That is a big differenece.
But thanks for your input on this issue. I thank you for your time.
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Originally posted by Snowchick2005:
I guess you are not in a right position to say anything. I can see that you are just targeting guys for their wrong doing based on your own experience. First of all, not all guys are bad and some are good. Doesn't mean that you met a very bad guy in your life then every guy is bad. You are aiming guys not the issue that I had posted.
But still thank you for taking your time to reply this thread.
The clear fact is guys always wanted a rational argument and complained that we are emotional in an argument.Why is it so difficult for guy like yourself to answer my questions?
Running away and avoiding my valid questions is what you can only do now.
I think if you are here to wait for the reply post that will give you the answer that you need, then I can tell you I will be here to question those whose righteousness and justice are seriously flawed.
Do you really think you will gathered enough sympathy for your pathetic act?
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Originally posted by parn:
The clear fact is guys always wanted a rational argument and complained that we are emotional in an argument.Why is it so difficult for guy like yourself to answer my questions?
Running away and avoiding my valid questions is what you can only do now.
I think if you are here to wait for the reply post that will give you the answer that you need, then I can tell you I will be here to question those whose righteousness and justice are seriously flawed.
Do you really think you will gathered enough sympathy for your pathetic act?
Having this thread is for an open discussion with useful input. No one want any sympathy for any act. As for you, you are just purely aiming at guys for no good reason. Beside, i'm a girl who stand on the right side but not the gender side. Maybe you should put aside your emotion before having any input for this thread. I thank you for your time.
By the way, please do not pollute the thread if you have nothing worthy to speak of. I beg of you use this time for other stuff rather then arguing about your emotion.
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Originally posted by Snowchick2005:
Having this thread is for an open discussion with useful input. No one want any sympathy for any act. As for you, you are just purely aiming at guys for no good reason. Beside, i'm a girl who stand on the right side but not the gender side. Maybe you should put aside your emotion before having any input for this thread. I thank you for your time.
By the way, please do not pollute the thread if you have nothing worthy to speak of. I beg of you use this time for other stuff rather then arguing about your emotion.
The right side doesn't means standing by your friend's side.Feel free to defend for your friend, but do bear in mind that I have not judge you yet as you have judged me.
If you are really a girl, then you would've understood my previous posts, but I guess you're not.
It's so funny nowadays there is a need for guys to create a girl's nick and pretend to be a girl to cower and support guys.
The situation is so simple that I do not understand why you are not able to see the real root cause of it.
If your friend had obliged his girlfriend and watch a movie with her, this situation would not have occurred.
And because you have explicitly mentioned that you are a girl, you should know how important it means to a girl if we have to ASK/DEMAND the guy to something for us.
Unless you are in love with your friend or if you are the third party, then you can continue your shameless post by yourself.
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Originally posted by parn:
And because you have explicitly mentioned that you are a girl, you should know how important it means to a girl if we have to ASK/DEMAND the guy to something for us.
I thought we were trying to end stereotypes here.
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you are your friend? =_=
and tell the girl go die la
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Rofl. How do you know that guy dont want to sleep ?
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Outsiders shouldn't comment on this
You're not in the relationship so u kaypo so much for wat?
For all you know, there are already exisiting problems between the couple.
Don't stick your nose into such matters.
If the couple is mature enough they will know what to do.
But if they are not, then too bad. In fact, ending the relationship right now would be the best ending (presuming that they are immature brats who don't know how to handle commitment).
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bonkers, I feel that you can be a counsellor with your psy qualifications lol.
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
bonkers, I feel that you can be a counsellor with your psy qualifications lol.
Thx my frens say that one consultation with me would be enough to solve all my patients' problems
All jump from my office.
Problem solved!
lol!
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lol lame!
and ts died?
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Originally posted by gigabyte14:
lol lame!
and ts died?
har?
TS haven report for consultation yet
lol
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Outsiders shouldn't comment on this
You're not in the relationship so u kaypo so much for wat?
For all you know, there are already exisiting problems between the couple.
Don't stick your nose into such matters.
If the couple is mature enough they will know what to do.
But if they are not, then too bad. In fact, ending the relationship right now would be the best ending (presuming that they are immature brats who don't know how to handle commitment).
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I think I need to say sorry to everyone. As wad littlemissbonkers had said, it's really none of my business. So i guess I wouldn't comment anymore things here on this topic. Thanks!
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Originally posted by Snowchick2005:
I think I need to say sorry to everyone. As wad littlemissbonkers had said, it's really none of my business. So i guess I wouldn't comment anymore things here on this topic. Thanks!
lol no need to say sorry la
like tt me will feel bad de
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
lol no need to say sorry la
like tt me will feel bad de
do not feel bad. What you say makes a point. I am the one who should feel bad. But thanks for your useful feedback. =]
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Originally posted by Snowchick2005:
do not feel bad. What you say makes a point. I am the one who should feel bad. But thanks for your useful feedback. =]
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Originally posted by Snowchick2005:
I am here to talk about an incident that happened to my friend and his girlfriend. I just want to know what you guys think about this relationship.
My friend (let's call him boyfriend) is a very faithful guy who loves his girlfriend very much. Most of the time I see him giving up his weekends to his girlfriend and thus he spend lesser time with his fellow friends or buddies. He is currently in NS but he is always free on weekends. He even agreed to give tuition for his girlfriend's sister.
As for the girlfriend, I will say she also love my friend alot. But the way she thinks and speaks just confused me and her boyfriend. Here is one incident that happened.
They had been dating for 2 years plus. They had a common committment which is to watch movie together every month. What happened is that the guy is spending most saturdays teaching his girlfriend's sister and sundays he got to go to church with her girlfriend. After church he will have to prepare to book in back to camp and his camp ain't near his house. After all, his girlfriend also needs to go to her aunt house to give tuition to her cousin.
Therefore there is one month they realised that they did not watch a movie for that month and they left 1 last week before the month ends. Just to make things worse, the boyfriend needs to be in camp on saturday thus he will be only be out of camp on saturday night. The girlfriend insisted on watching the movie and they both fought over this issue because the boyfriend is just feeling very tired and wish to have a break at home. He invited the girlfriend to come over to his house and they can spend time watching movies on the computer but she rejected the idea.
Sunday came and to the boyfriend's surprise, the girlfriend do not need to go and teach tuition, so she keep insisting of watching movie again. But the boyfriend is really tired after the saturday activities in camp plus he woke up early sunday morning to attend church. Church ends at about 4 and he promised his parents to go back for dinner. Therefore there is no way he can go out or movie. He wanted to cheer up his girlfriend and try to make it up by telling her to meet her at woodlands for movie on wednesday night as he can come out of camp for that night to have a break. But the girlfriend replied that she is lazy and don't feel like going down to so far just to catch a movie. In the end, the girlfriend suggested breaking up.
Before all these happens, everything was fine. Just because they failed to watch movie for a month and the girlfriend demanded a break up. The boyfriend is really sad about this. I can sense that he tired very hard. Everytime the couple fight over something, the boyfriend always give in as much as he can. So I feel that it is abit unfair for him. So what do you guys think?
the girl does not love the boyfriend anymore (or she never loved him to begin with), she is just finding excuse to get rid of him and since he does not want to watch movie with her, it become a perfect excuse for her to use as a so called valid reason to dump him.